Honouring your own rhythm and natural cycles as a woman

How is mid February finding you? I hope you are able to pace yourself and feel resourced and still connected with your Vision and Soul's Calling.

I know this time of the year can be very challenging for many of us. I've been having many conversations with other female practitioners who are feeling overwhelmed and stretched out right now.

Many of them said to me that they felt really focused and enthusiastic at the beginning of January but now feel exhausted and unmotivated.

So if you are feeling like this - please remember that we are in the middle of Winter. I know it can feel like Spring is here already but our bodies know better. They are much more in tune with Nature's rhythm than our minds and expectations.

How are you with honouring your own rhythm and natural cycles - especially in your work and business?

It’s taken me years to learn and allow myself to live in more of my energetic harmony. When I was younger I would push through my tiredness and keep going - working hard, showing up and waking up really early just so I would be on top of everything that needed to be done.

I did it for over two decades of working in Social Care full time and running my own business on the side in the evenings and on weekends, with the last 8 years going fully self-employed.

No wonder my anxiety was so high, my sleep all over the place, and my nervous system so frazzled. And I kept repeating the cycles of high work activity followed by crashing. A typical exhaustion/burnout cycle.

I was trying to live in a way that is designed for a masculine approach - keep pushing through the difficulties, show up relentlessly, and (my favourite) ‘show it who’s the boss’ attitude.

It’s the kind of showing up from the power of the mind - and completely disconnected from the wisdom of the body.

It was making me exhausted and like I couldn’t do it, and I continuously felt not good enough.

Ultimately I felt disempowered because no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t become that person. I couldn’t sustain working in this hard, relentless way.

And when I hit peri-menopause the price of pushing through became just too much. My body started speaking much louder through its physical sensations.

But I wasn’t going to give up on my dreams and vision, and what I felt deep within was possible.

So I kept learning and doing my own inner work and healing, and looking for a better and simpler way of living and working. I kept doing my daily non-negotiable practices - meditating, doing my yoga and somatic movement, and daily embodied listening with journaling.

And things shifted - I started making different decisions and choosing to organise my time, energy and work in a different way. I started to say ‘no’ to things that were draining and I didn’t enjoy doing. I let go of work and collaborations that were costing me energetically too much.

I realised that it is my business, I can decide how it looks and how I work - and I can run it in a way that is aligned with who I am and what I love.

I allowed myself to compassionately embrace who I am, and trust my inner knowing more than well-meaning advice from others.

I started to honour my inner guidance and wisdom coming through - even if it was uncomfortable at times.

When you allow yourself to fully embrace who you are and lean into your natural and unique abilities, and build on your strengths - your work and business (and life) start to rebalance.

There are so many who will tell you that you have to be more of this or more of that. And if you try to follow their advice you might end up going against your natural and simple way of being.

It’s the difference between floating effortlessly in a current of a river going downstream and being guided by our inner wisdom, OR swimming up against a strong current of the same river - hustling and pushing relentlessly.

The first one is easy and fun - it feels aligned, intuitive and deeply nourishing, and the second is a lot of hard work and often feels exhausting.

So if you’re a female practitioner and feeling like I used to but now you're ready to change it - then I have an invitation for you - come and join us for our next cohort of Trauma-informed Somatic Teacher and Coach for Women training certification.

You will learn in a safe community how to fully embrace who you are within your work with others, how to trust your inner wisdom, and how you can include yourself in your circle of care and love.

In this training I am teaching the practices that I learned over the past 25 years that helped me, my clients and many female practitioners to embody who they are, feel empowered and thrive - in their life and business.

We run this deeply transformative training twice a year - in Spring and Autumn. Our Spring cohort starts on 13th + 14th April 2024 and I would love to speak with you if you're interested in joining our community. Your next step will be to book a free call with me so we can connect.

You can find all information about Trauma-informed Somatic Teacher & Coach for Women training certification ​HERE​​.